Both Christian and non-Christian materials can provide wisdom, especially when it comes to abuse. Use these resources alongside daily Bible study for healing.

– Boundaries: When to Say Yes, When to Say No to Take Control of Your Life, by Dr. John Townsend and Dr. Henry Cloud, is a foundational book for any healthy relationship and a bookshelf staple for those who grew up without boundaries. I’ve read it five times and learned more each time!

– The Emotionally Healthy Woman by Geri & Peter Scazzero. Watch the accompanying videos to hear their powerful story. This would likely resonate with you if you grew up in the church.

– The Men Who Hate Women and the Women Who Love Them by Dr Susan Howard & Joann Torres. If you are, or were, in a narcissistic relationship, you need to read this one!

– Experiencing God: Knowing and Doing the Will of God by Henry & Richard Blackaby and Claude V. King provides fantastic instruction on how to walk more closely with God.

– Walking in Victory: Why God’s Love Can Change Your Life Like Legalism Never Could by Dennis McCallum. If you have accepted Jesus as your Savior but have not yet understood that you have already been forgiven, this book is a must! 

– Captivating: Unveiling the Mystery of the Woman’s Soul by John & Stasi Eldredge and Wild at Heart: Discovering the Secret to a Man’s Soul by John Eldredge. Both explore God’s plan for his magnificent creation and how sin destroys it.

– The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. If you want to avoid the new-age precepts, just skip right to the chapter on the agreements. This book helped me recalibrate after years of living with lies and half-truths.

– It’s Not You: Identifying and Healing from Narcissistic People by Dr. Ramani Durvasula

– Dr. Ramani Durvasula: YouTube channel & podcast. A clinical psychologist and retired professor of psychology, Dr. Ramani is an expert in narcissistic personality disorder.